Personal Status Board

This page is a demo page only. You can change it while you're visiting, but when you leave it will revert back to the values it had before you arrived. And no one else can see what statuses and comments you enter except you. There is no PHP, MySQL database or any other files keeping track of your entries. There are only some JavaScript arrays whose values you are changing on this page—but you're not even changing the array values in the .js file. JavaScript cannot write to files on the Web, even though it's possible to write to a local LAN, intranet file (although usually not that useful) with JavaScript.

However, this site DOES have FREE PSB files for you that you can use to set up your own Personal Status Board that really works. It will use PHP (included) and a MySQL database (which your website's host will give you for free) and you can use it to facilitate communication in your local MC (see below), neighborhood, extended family, or other group, club, or organization.

The Personal Status Board (PSB) is a 1-page website that functions as a communications center that can inform any/all of the group members about the personal statuses of each of the group members, and any group member can update/edit status codes and comments of anyone once s/he logs in (trust is implied) although normally members would update only their own status and comment. It can allow children to get their needs met better, parents to meet their kids' and their own needs better, caregivers to find out which kids want a different nurturer currently, group members to declare their need to be alone (do not disturb), etc.

There are 100 customizable status codes in which general feelings, needs, wants, desires, and openness can be expressed to the group, and coordination of activities can be greatly facilitated due to the fact that any group members can consult it (keeping it open as a window on their computer screen) and instantly learn what everyone else is into. With standard communication methods such as phones, iphones, and computers, using texting, IMing, emails, chatrooms and social networking sites, people mostly learn what ONE person at a time is into. Seeing what everyone in a group is into simultaneously is a holistic, quantum leap beyond standard communication contexts. Along with this new level of social connectedness, a calendar program for groups would be a great way to see specific schedule details to coordinate activities. For larger groups, Office Calendar for Outlook or AirSet Cloud Computers is good, and for smaller groups, Cozi Family Calendar is good.

Returning to the subject of PSBs: Think about it—how often do you, your kids, or your friends simply plop down in front of the boob tube or play video games or check out YouTube videos simply because trying to deal with the logistics of getting together with one or more friends for real, old fashioned direct social contact seems like too much of a bother? How many parents, or adults in general, say they're too busy to pursue friendships? How many kids are too busy playing video games or watching TV or texting or updating their MySpace page to pursue f2f (face to face), irl (in real life) relationships and how many of their parents are seriously concerned about this social opt-out? And yet if socializing irl and f2f was easy and effortless, would your answer be the same? Now contrast a quick glance at a PSB with the time and effort it takes to call all your friends and mostly get voicemail or "sorry, I'm too busy now" responses. They were disturbed to no avail and you were left singing the blues. See why PSBs are super empowering for the entire relationship context of any families or group of families (like MCs—see below), groups of close friends, or members of closeknit organizations where members are often interacting?

What Is An MC? MC stands for microcommunity. It refers to an intentional subcommunity whose setting is a normally-structured block-house neighborhood (or partial neighborhood; e.g., six homes) or apartment neighborhood (e.g., one floor or one partial floor) that contains from 10 to 40 people who’ve intentionally computer-selected their members for great compatibility and relocated to this MC (a few may already have lived at this location, but the odds against many of them already living there are great, due to compatibility probabilities), and who’ve adopted certain proven modes of considering each other (who are or will become best friends) as social resources for child care, eldercare, and other nonsuperficial levels of communication that, when appropriate, is facilitated by P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), or one of the other authoritative parenting styles, and by PSBs.

How Are MCs Different From Other Lifestyles? MCs are not random aggregations of people. MC people have intentionally selected one another and become best friends and therefore trust fellow members with child care and eldercare—and in other ways. So they’re not stuck with putting kids into day care centers with strangers who don’t care about their kids—their MC contains only people who care about them and their kids. Care is given by MC members, not strangers. And care is flat-gradient nurturance (more caregiver choices) rather than steep-gradient nurturance, which is forcing kids to have one or two caretakers when they prefer a situation of several choices since sometimes parents don't feel like being around their kids and when they do it anyway, low quality care results. With steep-gradient nurturance, parents choose who will care for kids, and when, regardless of the kids' wants and needs, but in MCs the flat-gradient nurturance allows kids to choose their caregivers. (This is in keeping with the tenets of Attachment Parenting in which kids needs are filled when the kids manifest them and how kids want them filled, where possible, and this applies to caregiver choice as much as when to nurse them, feed them, comfort them, etc. If kids usually choose to be cared for by parents, that's fine, but the critical issue here is the kids need to be able to CHOOSE.) Reitterating: kids choose whom to be with, to the largest degree possible. And abuse becomes nearly impossible, since there are other nurturers in whom the kids confide, and because kids would not choose to be with an abuser. And the communication and parenting style in an MC is P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training) or one of the other authoritative parenting styles. However, not just parents but all relationships in the MC use this style, as it is the most effective for nurturing, conflict resolution, sensitivity to feelings, etc.

MC families live in normal houses and apartments as normal nuclear, single parent, extended, and mixed types of families. MCs are free to choose, if they prefer, only certain types of people, certain races, certain religions, all two-parent nuclear families, all singles, or whatever—people that choose each other really like each other and respect each other’s values and interests. The wrong way to maximize social resources is via communes, socialism, communism, fascism, gurus, cults, etc. They give the very idea of maximal resources a bad name. The right way to maximize social resources is to empower democracy and responsible independence and leave people’s physical living modes and family styles alone. Instead, concentrate on making the relationships work optimally between spouses, parents and children, friends, committed neighbors, and committed relatives, so that they produce happiness, fulfillment, and self-actualization, not symptoms and dysfunctional lifestyles.

PSBs help grease the relationship wheels!

In case you care how we built this page, check out The PSB Demo Code.